IDK..Relationships?...

IDK, if this person is a friend or not (but we are friends on Facebook). And he asked a question (that was posted on his status) which got me thinking, he asked…“It is easier to maintain relationships personally and impersonally face to face or digitally??????????- Jose Pena”

"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take."- Anthony Robbins

I feel in order to answer this question correctly; you first have to define what a relationship is. A relationship is a general interaction between people. But a lot of people mistake a relationship is only between lovers…When in fact you can have a relationship with pretty much anything and anyone (For example: you have a relationship with, parents/friends/teachers/grandparents/ even animals).

Now you know what a relationship is, I could answer your question.

It all depends on the individual, because with some people it’s easier or more convenient to stay in touch digitally (from facebook to texting). And some people find it easier to express what ever feelings they may have through an e-mail or text then face to face, because there’s no pressure or spot light causing them to be nerves.

I think a good balance of both, would make any relationship better. But when it comes to lover, you have to maintain that face to face interaction. And not depend only on the digital world (from facebook to texting) because if you do that it’s going to weakening your relationship, cause there would be a lack of interaction.

In order to have a good/successful relationship (everybody should know) you have to have an open flow of communication. That’s what the relationship depends on.

I hope I answer the question.

Til next time....Peace/Love & Cookies

Thinking about St. Valentine...

"Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet."-Plato

Valentines Day is pretty much around the corner. And I find myself (this year) not hating the idea of St. Valentine paying a visit. This year I find my self looking back at past Valentines Days, and remembering why I use to love this holiday and up until high school hate this holiday. Its funny how something so simple could make you change your whole out look on life, love… even Valentine Day.

I remember in 2^nd grade when the teacher made use make cute Valentines Day cards for one another (and for our moms) with candy. Then when you fast forward to high school, you see pretty much all the guys getting a girl they like or there girlfriend big teddy bears and chocolate etc.. Because it was Valentines Day, it’s the one day (other then Christmas) that they can show the world how much they care about the girl friend. And for some couples it’s there first time saying those three simple words.

To enjoy this holiday, truly madly deeply is to spend this day with someone you care about. Or the next best thing someone you love. (It doesn’t have to be with a boyfriend/girlfriend it could be with a friend or family but then again “what’s the fun in that”)

Til next time....Peace/Love & Cookies

Moving Forward

"We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we're curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths."-Walt Disney

Wow it’s been so long since I wrote a blog. A lot has change, from the year to the people around me. As well as myself, I didn’t released I still had so much growing up to (but not in a mature sense). I had to start thinking about myself, making future goals and looking more at the big picture. Its cool living life day by day but you do have to think about tomorrow at some point.

I had to create a plan. That would help me become the woman I want to be. The plan had to have guild lines; from my career path to kind people I have around me. This guild lines had to include short and long term goals. Which can be very overwhelming at times, but it had to be done.

In order to be happy in life, you have to do what makes you happy. And be around positive people, who has a future, career and has self respect. In life I feel the most important thing, is the people you spend your life with. Because the people in your life can help or hurt the person you want to become.

Think about it!....

Til next time....Peace/Love & Cookies

Shadow

Shadow could be define as an area that is not or is only partially irradiated or illuminated because of the interception of radiation by an opaque object between the area and source of radiation. In other words a rough image cast by an object blocking rays of illumination. Which are both great and good definitions of the word shadow but still does not get to the point of what content am using the word in.

Even throw both definition are 100% correct, when reading this blog you would be lost. Because of the content your use to hearing the word shadow in, in this cast it’s WRONG! I know I know …How it could be right in some sense and wrong in others, it’s easy because it’s all about the content in which the word in being used that’s all.

Which bring use to this, what content the word is being used in this blog?

Am going to give a simple definition of the word, so that you get an understanding of the content the word shadow is being use.

Shadow: An imperfect imitation or copy.

When I look around me all I see is shadows. Everybody looks, talks, acts pretty much the same or should I say there just an imperfect copy of one another. I KNOW! When you first read this, you think about crazy… (Take a second to really think about what’s being said about the world as we know it.) Are you done? Great then you know am right.

Most of us are shadows, if were not shadow ourselves. Then were just one of the few living in someone else shadow, or the small percent that is individual. Still to this day I do not know if its a bad thing, I guess it just depends on your own belief. But if you ask me it’s a BAD THING!

Why?.. You may ask, because were loosing of individuality and if you don’t see that as a bad thing. I have no words for you!

F.Y.I

When you read this blog, please do not read into it to much. Take it as is (at face value); do not try to twist my words around to make yourself feel as if you have some importance. YES! I do, love it when people have an opinion about my writing. Or have an opinion about pretty much anything, because it shows you have a brain (or just some form of sense).

However, when you use your opinion to be little me, or try to make yourself come off like some hot shot. That is when I have to tell you about yourself

“I can careless about your opinion, because your opinion has no value (when it comes to me)”. Am sorry if I don’t live up to the way you think all 21 year females should be, as a matter of fact( wait… 2 seconds later) I TAKE THAT BACK!. Because I really do NOT care about what you think or how you feel…

As you read this blog, you maybe getting the wrong idea … Going threw that brain of yours, you may think I actually care, because I wrote a whole blog about YOU! When in fact I do not care, I just realized I might not be the only girl you talk to in this manner. I guess the other ladies either don’t care about themselves enough to set you straight, or maybe even killed themselves (c’mon, I went to far huh?...lol).

So here’s me setting you straight, I have not a clue nor do I care about what you think about me. However, as soon as you voice that opinion in a rude and disrespectful manner then we have problems. Am not some lonely, sad little girl that would need a man to make them become a happy “woman”? If that’s idea, you get of who I am after reading one of my blogs you could not be more wrong.

Am not sad or lonely, so please keep your BS comments to yourself (to those who read my work and understand where am coming THANK YOU! your opinion do matter, because you people appreciate good writing, with a strong-minded writer

Black Rose

The reason why I call this blog, “BLACK ROSE” is because that‘s the word I use to describe a friendship. When you think about it? It sounds somewhat CRAZY to compare a black rose to a relationship especially a friendship.


A rose it usually red, white or pink maybe even yellow. However, to see a black rose that could be creepy or just unheard of. How much people actually seen a black rose?...And am not talking about on T.V. or in a magazine, am talking about actually hold & smell a black rose. IT IS UNHEARD OF...WHY? Because its fiction.

Am not saying friendship is fiction, am saying most things that are fiction is based off reality. Think about a “Black Rose”…. Black is a color and a rose is a flower, but when put together it’s a fictionally flower called black rose (Black + Rose = Black Rose)
Lost? Lets break it down like where in first grade.

• Black: Is define as serious, conventional and it can be mysterious, sexy, and sophisticated.
• Rose: Is define as “saying: I love you” desire, passion, courage, respect, beauty and sincerity. A red rosebud symbolizes purity and loveliness.









Therefore, when I call my friend or our friendship a Black Rose, am calling it “serious, mysterious, it has respect with sincerity (with a twist of passion)” It’s hard to find that why it’s hard to get a hold of. However, when you get a hold of it, you realize how beautiful it is to have in your possession. Just like a Black Rose.
Peace /love & cookies

A kind word( for the New Year)

I am a strong believer in a kind word…. (So for the New Year, I have decided to give a kind word to a few random people who I hardly speak to as well as a couple of people I speak to a lot).

“Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success. Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly”.

What I have notice with the people I chosen to send this message to (besides being interesting). You people pretty much have the same goals in life, which is to be “successful”. Do not get me wrong that is a good thing, because we all know not many young people have goals and dreams. However, I have one question, what is the definition of success?

In order to become something first define what it is.

Success: a) The achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted
b) The attainment of wealth, fame, etc
As you can see, success has pretty much two definition. I always knew success had two meanings, but my definitions was a little different then the ones given. (So here is my definition of success) The first definition is the acknowledgment of ones work with respect. However, the second definition is gaining fame, wealth, riches etc…

Am not saying you cannot get one without the other, am saying think about it. What is driving you to success? Is it definition A or B?

Whatever you decide just remember, you chose it.

Just be Passionate, your not going to be successful with being that first. In addition, try to stay focus! because “No one said life is going to be perfect; build a bridge and get over it” Understand life has ups and downs, just when it’s down GET UP!



You have to Live, Breath & LET GO!

Live (live life) Breath (take everything in) Let go (of the bad/negative)

For some what I wrote could be nonsense and for others it could be just what you needed to know. Am just happy you took the time out to read what I wrote.



I love some of you, like most of you; hate none of you, RESPECT ALL OF YOU!
Peace /love & cookies